Guten Tag, y’all!
When I was a kid, we had an Oscar the Grouch alphabet book that I was reading aloud to my mom one day. The entry for the letter N read: “N is for my no good necktie”, but for some reason I interpreted it as “N is for my no good nekkid.”
Maybe this was a Freudian slip; so often in America (and the South especially) “naked” is associated with “ashamed.” I got to thinking about this after reading an article on Baby & Blog about Kimora Lee Simmons going topless in front of her kids.
Since moving to Germany, though, my stance on nudity has become a bit more relaxed.
If you’d asked me a few years ago, I probably would have said that Kimora should definitely have covered up. Since moving to Germany, though, my stance on nudity has become a bit more relaxed. It started the first time I went to a German beach and saw just how many children–boys AND girls–were running around in the buff. I clutched my proverbial pearls, but the Germans didn’t bat an eye.
I shouldn’t have been surprised; after all, Germany IS the home of Freikorpurkultur, or FKK (loose translation: lettin’ it all hang out), the first worldwide nudist movement (according to Wikipedia). Though I’ve never seen any grown folks running around nude, there are designated FKK areas at beaches and other swimming places. Plus, nudity is a normal part of network TV here in Germany, and boobie magazines on the newsstand are not required to be covered in brown paper wrappers.
Though I’m still not comfortable with the Babycakes being exposed to Playboy bunnies at the grocery store , I am much less uptight about mothers being nude in front of their children.
Though I’m still not comfortable with the Babycakes being exposed to Playboy bunnies at the grocery store , I am much less uptight about mothers being nude in front of their children. (Warning: TMI ahead) When I think about it, the Babycakes and I have had a pretty nekkid relationship from the start: when he was born, the doctors had us lay skin to skin to help him regulate his temperature. Then there was breastfeeding, and the general level of nekkidness that came with being a single mom caring for an infant (actually, I’m sure most moms with small children have to shower with the door open).
But while I’ve relaxed, there is still some American prude in me, and now that the Babycakes is older (and the word nipple is in his vocabulary*), I think I’ll be letting it hang out less. But I may just let him be like the German kids (can’t lie though–if he were a girl, i’m not sure that my choice would be the same) because the majority of Germans seem to be VERY comfortable with their bodies. Maybe that comes from getting the message, at an early age, that your body is nothing to be ashamed of. No good nekkid? Not here!
What do y’all think–how naked should adults be around kids? And would you let your kids run naked?
*One night while giving Babycakes a bath, the following conversation took place.
Babycakes: Mommy, I have two ears! And two arms! And two…two…
B: Two nipples! I have little nipples! Mommy you have bi–
Me: Okay, let’s talk about something else.