dispatch 35: on being afraid

Guten Tag, y’all!

So. Last week, someone committed suicide at the mall. I don’t know why she did it. Just jumped, from the third floor to the bottom.

Last week, a gunman opened fire on a bar full of people in Tuscaloosa, Ala., the town where I attended college. Where my best friend and some of my family members live.

Last week, a gunman opened fire on a theater full of people in Colorado. (How sad is it that I could write this sentence almost word for word, just replacing the location?)

I can’t lie: as much as I want to be full of courage every day, there are times when fear creeps in. Hearing about death makes me cling to life–not just to mine, but to the lives of people I love as well. Makes me want to grab Babycakes and The Man and retreat to a place far, far away.

Sometimes, this crazy world makes me wanna pack up these guys and run away.


But y’all know it’s not going down like that.

As I was trying to decide what I wanted to say in today’s post, I came across an article about Frank Ocean, a phenomenal musician who recently came out as queer. Considering the fact that he works primarily in hip-hop and R&B, his revelation was a particularly courageous thing. When asked about it, he had this to say:

Me saying what I said on my Tumblr last week? Sure, evil exists, extremism exists. Somebody could commit a hate crime and hurt me. But they could do the same just because I’m black. They could do the same just because I’m American. Do you just not go outside your house? Do you not drive your car because of the statistics? How else are you limiting your life for fear?” | Frank Ocean, Frank Ocean: the most talked-about man in music

Of all the things this blog does–updates, informs, entertains–I’m happiest when people tell me they’ve been inspired to make bold, courages choices. Part of that means not being ruled by fear. So let’s shake the worries off! Fill in the blanks: I’m afraid of ____________ but it won’t rule my life because _____________. I’ll go first!

I’m afraid of losing a loved one to violence but it won’t rule my life because to be afraid all the time would reduce our life together to a poor imitation of what it’s really supposed to be.

Who’s next? Leave your answer below, or just say it to yourself as you walk out of the door today. Be bold!


  1. It’s such an evil world we live in right? I was talking about this to my mom and sister the other day when we heard about the shootings in Aurora. You can die in your home–slip in the bathtub or anything. So, it’s best to be cautious, but not live a life of fear. I keep hoping and praying.

    I’m afraid of encountering evil head on but it won’t rule my life because I stay prayed up!

    • Amen to that!!! All of that! Like you said, life can be over at any moment, and despite all the evil in the world, we can’t stop living. Or be ruled by fear!

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